Seems to me then you have made the right choice. An employer who respected you could only pass on their well wishes.

Agree with Cp Scarlet in that you were probably best of out of that company. Had the MD of a company I was due to join hang up on me (i was telling me I wasn't coming to take the job anymore) felt I was glad to be away from that company (no longer trading has it happens with recession). That was due my MD at the time ringing me personally a few days before I was leaving to wish me well and state it was a shame I did not consider the offer from the company to stay, when explaining there was no offer I was quickly given an 11k payrise staggered over 12 months. I have colleagues who have had security called on to them and were escorted from building after clearing belongings to be put on gardening leave.

I handed in my notice at a company I worked for for 10 years last November. I wrote a lengthy letter of around two A4 pages cataloguing all the occasions the company had failed to support me over the recent months and the double standards regarding discipline and a supervisors son working with us. My Manager came to see me and said and I quote, 'I got your letter, whats that all about then?' I knew I had made the right decision and I am sure that you do to!

I have to admit that my experience at my last place was somewhat better than your guru and have to agree with people that you are better off out of it if you're being called those sorts of names for putting your notice in. Have to admit I disagree a bit with Tinkerbell as if they were serious in not wanting you to leave then they would have wanted to talk about it (see TSC's experience); sounds more like someone is annoyed you jumped before they had a chance to push you, or maybe I'm just being highly cynical? Also a shame to hear John's assessment of his situation. I left my last place because I knew it was being sold and whoever bought the company was likely to have their own H&S function. Only one person was "put out" by me leaving and they were not part of the management structure involved in the process, I also think handing over my notice after a key client meeting rather than before helped me somewhat.

Hi Guru, I agree with the others about you being better off. When I left my last place my manager was very kind indeed, wrote me a glowing reference and said that he would miss my input. He was very pragmatic as I was changing career path and realised that there was nothing they could offer me (although they did try to be fair) that would persuade me to stay.

My last boss simply said 'shame' with as little meaning as possible. We barely spoke between that day and the day I left. Hey ho, best off out of it. I am now a certificate and diploma to the good...

Well the dust has settled and we're all working towards a smooth transfer of my responsibilities. I havent had an apology form the MD, but we have talked since, and its all pleasent & professional. Time to move on to bigger and better things :)