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Posted By morganvw1
Hi all,
Just a quick note to ask about the above title. I have been working for my current employer for about 9 months now. I was put in to a very high profile project because of my LUL knowledge, even though my construction knowledge was not great but I was told I would learn on the job with the project manager taking me under his wing.
I run the site for seven months with no problems, the client liked me, and everything was going like clockwork. I always knew there would be another H & S Manager with more construction knowledge coming on board to guide me.
Since the new chap has turned up all he has done is make me run around like a secretary for him. He is also very abusive to me on site and godes me in front of my project manager where he gets me to bite, making me look like the aggressor.
I have started to make a journal of all the petty things he is making me do, but tension is high and I now hate coming to work as where before I loved my job.
Has anyone else out there experienced this and how did you resolve it.
Many thanks.
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Posted By Kieran J Duignan
When I was in that situation myself as an employee, I wasn't able to resolve it.
Now, when self-employed, I realise that contracts are more equally balanced.
The most constructive comments I can offer are:
a. recognise that you really are in what you perceive as a very high stress situation
b. find a competent personal coach with whom you can talk through various options regularly
c. recognise that, even if you don't win a power struggle, you can win by learning how such destructive situaitons are permitted
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Posted By Terry Smyth
Im afraid your going to take the bull by the horns and confront this type of bully yourself directly.
You do not say if this person holds a senior position to you or not, however, if he does, tell him that you acknowledge the respect from his experience in the field but reserve the respect as an individual until he shows a mutual respect for you and others.
This type of person usually has a long history of this type of behaviour, maybe some homework is required into his background.
In general, bullies do not like to be confronted, so unless you can show a degree of assertiveness, with self respect this will continue.
It may be prudent to confide in a trusted employer/client as to the diary you are keeping, so that it cannot be suggested that it was written overnight
Regards
Terry
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Posted By morganvw1
Thank you all for your responses by e-mail.
The situation has now been resolved after months of abuse. At first it was just when we were not in ear shot of others, then while we were in company, and finally over an open airwave as we have radio's on site.
After going to my project manager and stating that I could no longer work like this, I was then put in front of my senior project manager who had noticed this individuals tone and actions towards me.
The situation is now that he is no longer my boss, although he is still with the company.
My goal now is to outshine him, as this is not very hard as I have been doing most of his work for him anyway, and I have also been told by the client that their confidence in this individual is decreasing by the day.
Again thanks to all that have responded on the forum and to those who have sent me mail.
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Posted By Merv Newman
Well done. The trick is too make sure that whatever hits the fan, you are behind the fan.
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Posted By Raymond Rapp
I could say welcome to LUL...but that would be flippant. After 21 years working there I am familar with many aspects of bullying, intimidation and retribution by a few managers. However I am a little late with my response it seems, so I am glad you have resolved the matter.
Regards
Ray
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