Posted By Merv Newman Amjad, there are many types of bosses. At the extremes you will get those who only know how to criticise. I think this covers about 80% of bosses. These are the ones who PUSH their people to do better. At the other extreme you will get the bosses who LEAD their teams. Sadly, these are much rarer. We are talking about the boss who will give public recognition to the person or the team who have done well. ("Hey, Amjad, I like what you did today. That was a good question you asked !") Recognition, Reward (a smile or a kind word will do) and Reinforcement. One work team will give a certain minimum of performance because they have to, just to avoid negative consequences. Another team will give maybe 200% because their efforts are recognised and rewarded. Merv

Posted By Merv Newman Amjad, sorry but I'm coming back with a second reply having reread your posting. Traditional bosses have a tendency to look for the error. Coming across a person who is 90% correct they will criticise the 10% without mentioning the 90% When I start with the 90% the person will often admit to the 10% and do something to correct it. With a smile. Amjad, I'm making an assumption here that you have children. Remember the day when your first child took his/her first steps. Then fell down ? Did you criticise the mistake, or congratulate the success ? Merv

Posted By Merv Newman Amjad, as I said, they will criticise the 10% and not recognise the 90%. Don't worry. This is what 90% of us have to put up with every day. Go with the flow and kiss the wife and kids when you get home. That's the most important part of life. You should also pat the dog. Merv

Posted By Tabs Amjad, I had one of those bosses a couple of years ago. Thankfully they got rid of him and promoted me. I have been blessed with good bosses in all my other jobs - they do exist, and they need to be identified when you go for your job interview. I like the ones that ask you a question and then help you with the answer - they are the ones that genuinely want people to succeed. Look for that. Don't dispair, keep copies of what you do because they'll come in handy when you move on. Meanwhile, take note of the kind offer above and chat.

Posted By Merv Newman I used to be scared of my boss. Thinking that he would do me down whenever possible. Then he got me a promotion up to his level. Then I got even higher than him. We stay friends. He was "Division Head of Services" (next door to Buncefield) I was "risk management coordinator" later "European safety consultant" Nowadays he runs Hatfield private air port, I think, and I run my own consultancy business. Plus que ca change, ca change .... Merv

Posted By Crim Hi Amjad, Forgive me for guessing your age but I think you are mid 20's and in your first job. When I was that age I had been where you are now, a few times. I have had many bosses during my working life - some good and some bad, but I have taken positive things from the good ones and virtually nothing from the bad ones. (Apart from remembering how bad they were). I have been a boss myself and was respected by the workforce but not too well liked by those above me, however they did continue to promote me (Fire Brigade). I am now self employed and in a position to work for who I want, when I want and have dropped some clients recently because they do not listen to me or act on my advice. I am now considering dropping a good client because they have suddenly started being negative toward me and I can do without that attitude. There is always someone else who needs me! If you want some advice from me you will ride the present tide and come out of it positively. One day you may feel confident enough to take on self employment and enjoy different pressures. Good luck

Posted By Dave West Amjad i think you are right in your expectancy for some praise. We all do our job for all kinds of reasons whether it be money or the cause to make sure people get home in the same health condition that they came to work in but whether it be one or both we all have one thing in common. We need some job satisfaction! I know that when i handed in my latest policy and was given praise for it i got that satisfaction but i'm sure that if it all went unoticed i would not get it.

Posted By Amjad Al Ata Dear All, I would like firstly to thank you very much, you may not know how your responses supported me. It is life & I have to keep learning. I am trying to cope with the situation, to find the positive part of it & to try change it (by work). Thanks to all of you Amjad